That’s right, negative people suck… the energy right out of you. Constantly being around negative people is one of the worse things you can do to your potential. Life is already tough enough as it is and when you add in the negative energy that oozes out of them, your life can seem way worse than it actually is.
If there’s one important thing that I learned from reading all of those self improvement books, it’s this:
Surround yourself with kind, positive people who are actively pursuing their dreams.
I’m sure you’ve been around negative people so you know what they can do to your mentality. You could be having a good day, walking around with a smile on your face, and then run into one of these people, spend 10 minutes with them, and all of the sudden feel like life is pointless. Whatever grey cloud was hanging over their head is now over your head as well.
Life is too short to spend your time with people who bring you down.
Keep in mind that there’s a difference between someone who’s negative and someone who’s giving you helpful criticism. If a friend of yours called you lazy and deep down you know it’s true, then they’re just being honest. Take that as a wake up call and make a change. Negative people are those who just complain about everything or have a habit of crapping all over your goals and dreams.
Now I’m not saying to cut negative people out of your life completely but I am saying to minimize the time you spend with them, that way, you’ll make more room and time for positive people to enter into your life. By the way, negative people can be anyone. Even successful people can be negative jerks. I know people who wouldn’t be considered successful by society’s standards but they’re always positive and lift those around them up.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel like life is an enjoyable experience; people who challenge you to grow, to become more, to give more, and encourage you when you’re down but who are also honest and care about you enough to let you know when you’re not living up to your potential.
So how do you find these positive people? The best way is to start being one yourself. By doing this, you’ll start attracting them into your life.
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Lets going to get rid of all people who suffers from depression or similiar!!!…. I guess they are downers on this extra positivist world we live in… just charming to care so much about one self and so little about others….
Thanks for your sarcastic input but you interpreted the article incorrectly. This article isn’t about you or anyone who suffers or knows someone who suffers from depression so don’t take it personally. I’m talking about people who almost get a kick out of bringing other people down; the haters and dream stealers. Often times, they do it out of habit.
This article isn’t about people with an illness, it’s about people who choose to bring others down.
I honestly believe that when we are strong enough, secure, serene and happy within ourselves no one can bring us down, wont you think? Does people have such a power over us? I’m saying this because actually I know I’m weak enough to let others upset me, and that shouldnt be the case.
And my apologies for the misintrepretation but there is no clarification that people who suffer from depression arent included. If you have ever dealt with a person that is going through that you may know that their behaviour is quite similar to the one you describe, they do have a “grey cloud” hanging over their heads
I think that’s possible but quite hard. It’s easy to not let an off comment bring you down but imagine dealing with it every single day of your life. Even a boulder can break if you chip away at it long enough.
Not every depressed person is negative toward others. With negative people, they can bring others down even when they’re happy. This article is more about people’s actions rather than their thoughts. My apologies for not being clearer.
Thanks 🙂 Now I have a resolution for this year – 2014.
Bullshit. In another piece you write about happiness coming from within. I believe it does. A truly happy person will be happy even if they’re unsuccessful, poor, and in the presence of negative people. Just as your happiness shouldn’t depend on material things or conditions, it shouldn’t depend on the company you keep. People aren’t just negative for no good reason, in fact, I know of many negative people who became that way because they were/are shunned by all the positive, radiant, motivated people with beams of sunshine bursting from their butts. Seriously, if every positive person embraced just one person who is struggling with negativity, and strove to be their friend, there’d be a helluva lot fewer negative people in this world in the first place. Even the successful “haters and dream stealers” as you call them in a comment above, are hurting and perhaps see YOUR happiness as success while they are unsuccessful in that respect. Make friends with EVERYone, judge NO one, it can’t hurt you if you’re truly happy! Just like love, happiness and friendship are not a limited commodities … the more you give away, the more you get!
Thanks for your input, Robin. That’s great that you can continuously subject yourself to people who constantly complain, is a downer about everything, and mocks your goals and dreams. And that sucks to hear about the negative people you know who became that way because they were shunned by positive people, apparently for no reason at all.
I get the sense that we’re defining negative people differently. The negative people I know aren’t people who are loners/friendless. They’re simply people who choose to focus on what’s negative, engage in gossip, thinks the world revolves around them, and aren’t looking to change. Perhaps their circumstances made them that way but hey, we’ve all had to deal with crap throughout our lives but not all everyone chooses to dump it on other people.
As I said in an earlier comment, it’s all about their actions. Part of the reason I created this site is to help change people’s mindsets but that can only happen if they want to change. If you have the time to work on changing people who are habitually negative but aren’t looking to change, then more power to you.
Judge no one … it’s seems you’re judging the negative people you know. I’m generally a happy person but I’m obviously reading this motivational site … why? I have a person in mind who I am trying to help. I have to compliment you on most of your insights, they’re very helpful with my challenge, but this single point you make here I just can’t rally behind. No, I can’t CONTINUOUSLY subject myself to complainers and mockers, but I do believe if we all take on a couple of them we can change them, the world, and ourselves. We make ourselves happier in the process … as long as we remember that OUR happiness does not DEPEND on theirs. And no, it doesn’t take alot of time or work. A compliment here, an invitation there, a discussion over a lunch room break passim… In fact it’s good practice, just like exercise keeps your body strong and puzzles keep your mind sharp, buoying up another spirit can strengthen your own resolve to be happy.
We shouldn’t judge anyone until we get to know them but once we get to know them, I think it’s reasonable to be able to decide whether or not we want to spend more time with them.
Again, it sounds like we have different definitions of “negative” people. The negative people I know aren’t exactly lacking in self confidence, at least not on the surface. Also, just because someone’s negative, it doesn’t mean they don’t have any friends or have no one to talk to or don’t get invited to parties.
Many people who visit this website are those who are looking for encouragement or something positive to help them combat the negativity that surrounds them or to lift up their current mood/mentality while others are looking to make a positive change. I respect that you’re willing to help change people regardless of whether or not they want to change but I’d just rather spend time with those who seek improvement since I don’t have the skills/knowledge to change those who don’t want to change anyway.